Losing a loved one is one of the worst traumas we have to face. And if it is the unexpected death of a child or through unnatural causes, then all the more so. The initial pain may well seem overwhelming but in the normal course of events that will be replaced by guilt, anger, fear, sadness, loneliness or hopelessness. These are absolutely normal reactions and over time they should diminish.

What you should do

Talk to other people about the person who has died
Talk about your memories of them
Talk about your feelings for them
Eat properly
Rest even if you cannot sleep
Allow yourself to grieve without regretting the loss of time

What you should not do

Don’t isolate yourself
Don’t keep your emotions to yourself
Don’t beat yourself up if you can’t cope
Don’t use drugs or alcohol to soften the pain

The future

Life changes after a bereavement, but the grief and pain will diminish and eventually you will be able to accept and adjust to a life without the person who has died. Death is unavoidable and part of our life journey is coming to terms with this. And the experience, as tough as it is, will in the end strengthen us. But if you do get stuck in grief and cannot find a way forward there is no shame in seeking professional help.